From Self-Doubt to Self-Confidence: Rewriting the Story You Tell Yourself
- Ria DeMay
- 5 days ago
- 2 min read
Self-doubt doesn’t always arrive loudly.It doesn’t always show up as panic or a meltdown. Sometimes, it’s just a quiet voice inside you that says:
“You’re probably not ready.”“You’ll mess this up.”“Someone else could do this better.”
And here’s the thing—That voice isn’t you.It’s a story.
Self-doubt is learned. Confidence can be, too.
Most of us weren’t born doubting ourselves.We learned to.
We learned it from being overlooked.From being told to stay small.From being made to feel like failure was unsafe—or that success would cost us something we couldn’t afford to lose.
So, we internalized the message:Better not try. Better not shine. Better not take up too much space. But what once protected you…might now be holding you back.
Confidence isn’t the absence of fear—it’s the presence of self-trust.
You don’t become confident by waiting for fear to disappear. You become confident by rewriting the story that says you're not good enough, ready enough, or deserving.
That rewrite begins in small, powerful ways:
Saying yes when you want to say no to fear
Speaking up even if your voice shakes
Taking the next step—even if you’re still doubting yourself while you do it
Confidence grows each time you move in the direction of your truth.
Try This: Journal Prompts for Self-Trust
If you’re ready to begin untangling the self-doubt story, start with these:
“Where did I learn to doubt myself—and am I ready to let that go?”
“What would my most confident self want me to remember today?”
“What version of me am I ready to step into, even if I’m still scared?”
Let it be imperfect. Let it be real. Let it be yours.
You don’t need to be loud to be powerful.
You don’t need to be certain to be worthy. You don’t need to wait until the fear goes away.
You just need to believe—on some level—that you’re allowed to begin again.
Confidence is a practice. A story. A choice. And every time you show up with honesty and courage, you’re writing a new chapter.
One that sounds a lot more like you.
Want a space to build self-trust through writing? Join us for Empower Hour—a free journaling circle to explore your voice, rewrite your inner story, and remember who you are.
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